05-19-2006, 02:34 AM
My wife and I encountered similar circumstances shortly after I became a moderator on the site; however, that was quickly resolved when she pointed it out.
Just like mentioned above, it was as simple as finding a compromise. I agreed that the only time I log on the the site is after hours or while she is working; problem solved. My wife and kids are ALWAYS first.
I also have a similar situation like with the wife not having any hobbies or such. She's a home body, not much for going out, nothing in particular that she's passionate about. Which is not an issue if it's approached fairly and honestly. She drags herself out on the boat as often as she can. Being that she has no hobbies, she can't logically pass down an offer to spend time with me on the boat. And if she asks me to join her on an escapade, I never tell her no, it's only fair. Most of the time it turns out fun anyways, no matter what my attitude is at first. Besides, you're not there to entertain each other, you're there to enjoy each others company. And like mentioned above, if the warmth of each others company isn't good enough, i'd say the computer is not the issue. I can be shoveling rubber dog crap onto a C-130 in China, and if my woman is there, I couldn't be any happier.
In my case, i'm not addicted to BFT, i'm addicted to fishing. Fishing is what keeps me sain, my passion, my therapy, my peice of mind. The smell of the fresh air, the roar of my outboard motor, birds chirping, mosquito bites on the back of my legs......That's what it's all about. Sitting in the house all day when it's nice outside is almost sinful to me. BFT is my way of sharing my knowledge with other anglers, and learning new tricks myself. I have an uncanny thirst for competition and perfection, fishing cators to that. For me, this site is all about the other anlgers, men and women, boys and girls. I spend a good bit of time on the site, probably an hour a day, sometimes more. But I also moderate a considerable amount of boards. It's a great tool for sharing conservation concepts, new rules and regs, strategies, and all in the hopes of preserving fishing for us and our children in the future. [cool]
I hope you and your husband find some common ground. It's not always easy, and us men can get bullheaded from time to time. I wish you the best.
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Just like mentioned above, it was as simple as finding a compromise. I agreed that the only time I log on the the site is after hours or while she is working; problem solved. My wife and kids are ALWAYS first.
I also have a similar situation like with the wife not having any hobbies or such. She's a home body, not much for going out, nothing in particular that she's passionate about. Which is not an issue if it's approached fairly and honestly. She drags herself out on the boat as often as she can. Being that she has no hobbies, she can't logically pass down an offer to spend time with me on the boat. And if she asks me to join her on an escapade, I never tell her no, it's only fair. Most of the time it turns out fun anyways, no matter what my attitude is at first. Besides, you're not there to entertain each other, you're there to enjoy each others company. And like mentioned above, if the warmth of each others company isn't good enough, i'd say the computer is not the issue. I can be shoveling rubber dog crap onto a C-130 in China, and if my woman is there, I couldn't be any happier.
In my case, i'm not addicted to BFT, i'm addicted to fishing. Fishing is what keeps me sain, my passion, my therapy, my peice of mind. The smell of the fresh air, the roar of my outboard motor, birds chirping, mosquito bites on the back of my legs......That's what it's all about. Sitting in the house all day when it's nice outside is almost sinful to me. BFT is my way of sharing my knowledge with other anglers, and learning new tricks myself. I have an uncanny thirst for competition and perfection, fishing cators to that. For me, this site is all about the other anlgers, men and women, boys and girls. I spend a good bit of time on the site, probably an hour a day, sometimes more. But I also moderate a considerable amount of boards. It's a great tool for sharing conservation concepts, new rules and regs, strategies, and all in the hopes of preserving fishing for us and our children in the future. [cool]
I hope you and your husband find some common ground. It's not always easy, and us men can get bullheaded from time to time. I wish you the best.
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