05-05-2006, 12:56 AM
ouch, What I mean is OU----CH!
You've heard from a maired man, now how about a confirmed batchlor.
Ya painted a grim picture there for sure,
I understand once upon a time he used to want to escape with you with evey given moment and you miss that part of your life. Sad but true, that part of your life is over, but it dosnt have to be gone entirely. Take the sugestions from theangler above, married life is a give and take world. If you give he will feal obligated to recipricate. this way you both get what you want....
I will tell you a secreat about men, they need comforting just the same as women do, they just express thier needs differently. Men will seek out the comfort they need especialy after a realy trialfull day of work if they dont find it at home.
this by no means has any reflection on your home. the comfort that men need is escape. that is something that you realy cant give him. That is unless you surprise him with a fishing picknic dinner where he can change in to his comfortable cloths and you can take a basket of chicken or any thing out side to a near by park or stream where he can drown a worm or two for an hour.
truthfuly he could have not thought about the family and gone to find his escape on a stool in a dark smoked fill bar blowing the family assets.
so if you figure he spends an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening he is doing quite well if you think about it. This sounds like you could build a family routeen this scedual. Every one needs it daily, It is called personal time. at least a couple hours perday. You can expect to see him on it longer on more stressfull days.
Once you have established this you can then set up another peice of the structure where you spend an hour "the whole family together".
Time is presous so lets not forget the huspand and wife need. there needs to be an hour set forth to cover that aspect of daily living.
It is hard for the home maker to understand the aspect of personal time especialy when they spend the entier day home alone, this person is need interpersonal involvment. As this is the case with any occupation where an individual works alone all day.
so if you think things are bad, they are realy pretty close to normal. This dosnt mean you cant expect or plan for a little improvement day, just dont make it regimental and keep it simple. every one will enjoy it.
you can plan of family dates to help, If you lived in south east michigan you could make a pitcher of coolaid and pick up a 5 dollar pizza from little ceasers hit the nearest park, or knock on the door of one of his fishing buddies where you can hear about what he is talking about in real time.
time is not recoverable, so learning how to get the most of your free from work time is a real must in todays time.
To put it simply, every one needs a couple hours every day just for them selves. It is benifitial to the family unit if you can all plan to do this at the same time of the day...
so the next time you think you are getting the short end of the deal do a drive by the local bub on the way home from work to see how many husbands are sitting there to get their hour of privacy. Then thank god your husband isnt there and you wont have to worrie will he make it home or will the family be spending the night in the emergency ward of the hospitol...
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You've heard from a maired man, now how about a confirmed batchlor.
Ya painted a grim picture there for sure,
I understand once upon a time he used to want to escape with you with evey given moment and you miss that part of your life. Sad but true, that part of your life is over, but it dosnt have to be gone entirely. Take the sugestions from theangler above, married life is a give and take world. If you give he will feal obligated to recipricate. this way you both get what you want....
I will tell you a secreat about men, they need comforting just the same as women do, they just express thier needs differently. Men will seek out the comfort they need especialy after a realy trialfull day of work if they dont find it at home.
this by no means has any reflection on your home. the comfort that men need is escape. that is something that you realy cant give him. That is unless you surprise him with a fishing picknic dinner where he can change in to his comfortable cloths and you can take a basket of chicken or any thing out side to a near by park or stream where he can drown a worm or two for an hour.
truthfuly he could have not thought about the family and gone to find his escape on a stool in a dark smoked fill bar blowing the family assets.
so if you figure he spends an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening he is doing quite well if you think about it. This sounds like you could build a family routeen this scedual. Every one needs it daily, It is called personal time. at least a couple hours perday. You can expect to see him on it longer on more stressfull days.
Once you have established this you can then set up another peice of the structure where you spend an hour "the whole family together".
Time is presous so lets not forget the huspand and wife need. there needs to be an hour set forth to cover that aspect of daily living.
It is hard for the home maker to understand the aspect of personal time especialy when they spend the entier day home alone, this person is need interpersonal involvment. As this is the case with any occupation where an individual works alone all day.
so if you think things are bad, they are realy pretty close to normal. This dosnt mean you cant expect or plan for a little improvement day, just dont make it regimental and keep it simple. every one will enjoy it.
you can plan of family dates to help, If you lived in south east michigan you could make a pitcher of coolaid and pick up a 5 dollar pizza from little ceasers hit the nearest park, or knock on the door of one of his fishing buddies where you can hear about what he is talking about in real time.
time is not recoverable, so learning how to get the most of your free from work time is a real must in todays time.
To put it simply, every one needs a couple hours every day just for them selves. It is benifitial to the family unit if you can all plan to do this at the same time of the day...
so the next time you think you are getting the short end of the deal do a drive by the local bub on the way home from work to see how many husbands are sitting there to get their hour of privacy. Then thank god your husband isnt there and you wont have to worrie will he make it home or will the family be spending the night in the emergency ward of the hospitol...
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