05-02-2006, 04:08 PM
[size 2]Hello Frustrated,
Wow, this is the first post I have seen like this but I'll take a swing at it.
How much BFT is too much? No such thing as too much
Just kidding, Family is by far the most important thing! I would talk to your husband and explain your thoughts to him. I find myself always searching for a balance between many things including these boards.
I find the best way to balance things is to schedule them and then just resign yourself to that schedule. It is funny how when you have a schedule and stick to it there always seems to be time for the other things that may throw your schedule off, later. A good example is my kids sports, since they were little I have always made a point to not miss their games or practices. My daughter is 13 and my son is 9 and to this day I have missed less then a handful of their games or practices. Sometimes I am in the middle of something when its time for practice but it always seems that it could keep until I got back, no matter how important it seemed.
Definitely talk to your husband, I am sure if you ask him what a reasonable time is to spend online he will have an answer and just keep talking until you agree on a time. Then it is up to him to keep his word.
Perhaps a good compromise you may or may not already do is. Fishing together? If he spends long lengths of time on fishing websites he clearly enjoys fishing. Maybe if you fished together as a family once or twice a month it would be a great compromise.
My wife is not a big fan of fishing (although she loves the catching part) so we try to schedule a camping or picnic type outing around our family fishing days.
Time is the one thing we can't get anymore of and quality time for the wife and kids needs to be a top priority. Sometimes we all just need a little reminder.[/size]
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Wow, this is the first post I have seen like this but I'll take a swing at it.
How much BFT is too much? No such thing as too much
Just kidding, Family is by far the most important thing! I would talk to your husband and explain your thoughts to him. I find myself always searching for a balance between many things including these boards.
I find the best way to balance things is to schedule them and then just resign yourself to that schedule. It is funny how when you have a schedule and stick to it there always seems to be time for the other things that may throw your schedule off, later. A good example is my kids sports, since they were little I have always made a point to not miss their games or practices. My daughter is 13 and my son is 9 and to this day I have missed less then a handful of their games or practices. Sometimes I am in the middle of something when its time for practice but it always seems that it could keep until I got back, no matter how important it seemed.
Definitely talk to your husband, I am sure if you ask him what a reasonable time is to spend online he will have an answer and just keep talking until you agree on a time. Then it is up to him to keep his word.
Perhaps a good compromise you may or may not already do is. Fishing together? If he spends long lengths of time on fishing websites he clearly enjoys fishing. Maybe if you fished together as a family once or twice a month it would be a great compromise.
My wife is not a big fan of fishing (although she loves the catching part) so we try to schedule a camping or picnic type outing around our family fishing days.
Time is the one thing we can't get anymore of and quality time for the wife and kids needs to be a top priority. Sometimes we all just need a little reminder.[/size]
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